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Comment on Rollercoaster by Brutha

Brutha — Sun, 20 May 2012 06:46:58 +0000

This was a good one. At six flags when April and I were wee tots, I was terrified of the idea of coasters and April tamed the “Mind Bender” with Dad. I changed my mind in adulthood and now love coasters, but not the wooden ones.

Comment on Are You Pale Enough? by Rock Hudson

Rock Hudson — Thu, 17 May 2012 20:29:07 +0000

Time is busted for successfully milking the attachment parenting story for lots of publicity. I’m sure that at some point, another magazine will try to go tit-for-tat, and make a boob out of themselves.

It’s udderly amazing to me that as more people become abreast of the situation, they feel the need to get something off their chest – good or bad.

Ok, not another nip out of me.

Comment on Rollercoaster by loolamay

loolamay — Thu, 05 Apr 2012 19:07:28 +0000

Oh, man. “Safety C” is great!

Comment on Rollercoaster by Carrie

Carrie — Thu, 05 Apr 2012 19:04:32 +0000

I have always loved rollercoasters but also have the nickname Safety C…. I’m not sure how this happened :)

Comment on The Governess by loolamay

loolamay — Sun, 01 Apr 2012 05:24:55 +0000

Elizabeth, thank you for those affirmations. Two really encouraging things jump out at me from what you wrote. First, that you’re not “in it at this particular moment” is so relieving. It reminds me that we flounder sometimes, but we feel really good sometimes. Second, you reminded me that I need a break right now. I do. I took a few days off last June, but that was last June! I think anyone who hasn’t take more than a day’s vacation from any job in almost a year might feel a little desperate. Gracious, I rarely even take a “sick day”. It’s time. Thank you for those sweet reminders. :-)

Comment on The Governess by Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Fri, 30 Mar 2012 21:53:17 +0000

So much to say about this…I have felt this way many times. I even almost did something about it and thought I would go back to work. In the end, the logistics of going to work just weren’t worth it for me. Then school started again and things felt a lot more manageable. I always seem to feel like this in the summers. I think it’s really hard to be the teacher and parent 24/7.

I think it’s natural to want to pursue your career as a scientist. What educated person wouldn’t feel like you do? It’s totally understandable. I also think what you’re doing now is totally worth all the effort you’re putting into it. This phase is a season and it will end eventually. You are like two years away from being able to have both boys in school while you go back to work. I’m not saying you should or have to take that road, but it is an option. You also have the option to put them in school/daycare now and go back to work. You have the option to keep doing what you’re doing.

It helps me to see my life not as some prison term that I’m serving, but as a choice I’ve made that can either be changed if it’s not working, or that I can appreciate as the best choice for me at that particular time. There’s more more than one way to be a “good” (good enough) mom. Deciding that your work needs to have a place in your life is okay and may even give you more energy for your family in a way.

I feel like writing this comment is really just a conversation I’m having with myself. I feel all this stuff so intensely too and it’s so hard when you’re in the abyss of motherhood. I happen to not be in it right at this particular moment, so it’s easier to act like I have all the answers.

You’re doing great work as a mom. You have a sharp mind and it is not going to waste right now–it’s just being used in a different way. I have no doubt that you will be a scientist once again, and that that will make you very happy. This time with young children is just going to be a blip on the April radar screen. It is hard while you’re in it though. Go do something fun this weekend. Give yourself a break. I’m going to try to take all this unsolicited advice I’m throwing at you and apply it to myself because I think that’s who I’m really talking to. : )

Comment on The Governess by loolamay

loolamay — Fri, 30 Mar 2012 21:25:26 +0000

Thank you, Sweet Beth Monkey. We miss you guys a lot. I look at your FB pages a lot and wish ya’ll were closer. Please let us know when you come into town. I believe there is a Mediterranean buffet with our names on it…

Comment on The Governess by Beth Daugherity

Beth Daugherity — Fri, 30 Mar 2012 16:15:51 +0000

Um, I will join you in the barf covered ditch of envy. I found myself in a conversation about it the other day and all I could think was yes, I am “lucky” to stay home with my kids, but I mourn being a chemist. I know, I know…”they are only young once.” Blah, blah, blah. Meanwhile I feel a bit like my mind is rotting. I am getting older too. I remember feeling smart once. Now at least we get to marvel at our kids doing something smart. I guess that counts for something.

Oh, and by the way, YOU are awesome. Miss you friend. We hope to make it your way sometime soon. <3

Comment on The Governess by loolamay

loolamay — Fri, 30 Mar 2012 16:15:02 +0000

Look under the bathroom sink, Love. :-)

Comment on The Governess by Rock Hudson

Rock Hudson — Fri, 30 Mar 2012 16:13:15 +0000

When are you going to grow *me* some cupric sulfate crystals?!?